Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common condition where men come very quickly during sex. It ruins relationships and does nothing to increase self-confidence. There are two types of premature ejaculation lifelong and acquired. People with lifelong PE encounter the problem during their first sexual encounter while the acquired version occurs unexpectedly.
The condition doesn’t affect fertility but definitely makes sex more difficult. Premature ejaculation is not a physical illness in most cases the cause is psychological or lack of experience. Some experts suggest lifelong PE has a genetic element to it. Often it comes down to technique and understanding how to control your orgasm.
It is a natural condition in terms of it being a common condition and young men with little sexual experience most frequently. Treatment for premature ejaculation involves talk therapy, training strategies and antidepressants. Sometimes it is a one-off occurrence due to the excitement of a new relationship and requires no further treatment.
We always imagine premature ejaculation to be exclusively a teenage boy issue, however, the condition affects men of all ages. The two types of PE effect men at different times in their lives and both cause distress. The cause is unlikely to be due to an underlying health condition and your doctor will rule that possibility out before suggesting treatment.
Early sexual experience and negative family attitudes to sex deeply influence the occurrence of lifelong PE. Guilty feelings about sex and sexual abuse at a young age may cause lifelong premature ejaculation. However, it is more likely lack of experience and technique are the main reason men come too quickly. There is also the suggestion of a genetic link which increases the chances of men having it. This type of premature ejaculation is most difficult to treat because it involves a lot of retraining.
New relationships, failing relationships, stress, anxiety and depression are the main reasons men encounter acquired PE. It occurs sporadically and unexpectedly after many years of satisfying sex. It is also down to a perception of how long men expect intercourse to last. Men who believe they come too soon also seek treatment to increase the length of time they have an erection. Treating acquired PE is more straightforward because men have good experiences to boost their confidence.
There are three main ways to treat premature ejaculation all of them require dedication and self-belief.
Relationship Counselling And Talk Therapy
If either a new or old relationship is the main cause of your premature ejaculation couples counselling helps you to address relationship issues. Talking therapy helps you to release stress and develop strategies to deal with stress, anxiety, depression and anything that bothers you.
We are not referring to running around the park type of exercise here, however, any exercise is good for you. The type of exercise refers to training yourself to understand your body and recognise the feelings before ejaculation. Couples can enjoy exercising together which will improve their relationship and boost their sex lives.
The squeeze method involves stimulating your penis until you are ready to climax then squeezing the end to calm down. Masturbation and sexual intercourse are great ways to practice this exercise. You keep stimulating and squeezing until you are ready to come.
This method involves stimulating the penis until just before the orgasm and stopping before ejaculation. You repeat the action until you are ready to come eventually you will be able to increase the length of time intercourse lasts.
Masturbating a couple of hours before sex takes the heat off a little and increases the length of time intercourse lasts.
Priligy is an antidepressant used to treat premature ejaculation. Doctors are not completely sure how it works except that it may have a calming effect on the man. Taking the drug may also increase confidence which will also have a positive effect.
By Birpal Virdee (Feb 2018)